There are three kinds of people in this world that you will meet. They will all play a key role in your life.
Firstly, there are the individuals that stand beside you. There are your friends, your soul mates. They walk with you and make the journey in life a little less lonely. These individuals are have had different experiences to you and together you learn that in life, when you stop struggling with the current, you float. That’s science and life seems easier. Thank them for every step they take with you for they are under no obligation to make sense of this world with you. Lean on them and return the favour because in darkness this world is cold and can leave you with frostbite and they may just be your lifeline.
Secondly, there will be individuals that stand behind you. Their intentions are their own but the effect on your path should be the same. For there will be the mothers, fathers, friends and strangers that push you forward but do not walk with you anymore with any number of reasons (for example – they moved away, drifted apart or worse, died). You will carry these people with you along with the lessons you have learnt from them. They are within every footprint you leave behind and have yet to carve. To these individuals, remember them and their wise words. However, individuals that also stand behind you may be putting rocks in your bag or shouting at you “you’re going to wrong way”, “you cannot do that” or “you will never make it”. These people also play a key role in your life. They are there to remind you that you can either find a problem or a solution. These individuals are stuck in the whitewater of the waves and like it there. They look for conflict and have lost themselves in the bitterness of this world. Their battles are not with you, for you are making the progress they want to.
“People who are intimidated by you talk bad about you with hopes that others won’t find you so appealing” – Sacagawea
Remember that their battles are within themselves. So leave them behind you and let their negativity will drive a light in you and when you get rid of their storms and rough seas, you will have clear skies and still water.
Finally, you will meet people who try and stand in front of you. They will look big and scary and intimate the hell out of you and they will make a “B line” for you. But I emphasis the TRY here because they will try;
- To ruin you
- To break you
- To trip you up
- To stop you
- To misguide you
- To block you
- To seek revenge on you
- To destroy you
- To steal you path
- To take everything
- To kill you
They success is based solely on you willingness to accept defeat and your believe in yourself. They presence in your life, however brief, will push you farther than to your limits. However, when you find yourself facing others bitterness, jealousy, lies and insecurities. Don’t raise to it. Don’t get angry. Don’t falter. Any insult can only define you if you let it have value. Reroute around their pit of insecurity and keep going along your journey. Lean on those that walk beside you for the map. Remember those that are behind you for the lessons their taught you. For they may have previously been the ones standing in front of you. They will blame you for changing or cutting them out of your life, however as chances go – they probably handed you the scissors or you just stopped dealing with their weight. Secretly they fear you and your capabilities. Do not be afraid of the sharks as they will soon understand that a giant swims amongst them. You are a blazing fire whilst they can’t find a matchstick. For they will always find your imperfections, your past, your failed attempts when your future looks brighter than theirs. Deal with it with grace and kindness and they will soon be behind you. No road block is too big to overcome, you just need some time, patience and a helping hand. So when someone is standing in front of you, simply give them the option of either standing beside you or soon being behind you.
My mother once said “that life is all about the 3 c’s: choice, chance and change. You must make the choice, to take the chance, if you want anything in life to change”. I believe she meant you will not find yourself in the shallow end of the pool. Throw yourself in the deep end instead of throwing in the towel. Nothing behind you matters and when you dive in head first, you will soon see that all the noise that surrounded you has faded and all you are left with is the water around you. So take the purge and watch how far the ripples you create go. Watch the chaos it makes for those who swim in the whitewater and the rides it makes for those who have learnt to surf the waves.
I wish you all courage on your journey, keep your head up.